By Sheikh Idris Watts
Principle 5: Believe In Yourself
You are not an accident. You were not mass produced. You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted and lovingly positioned on the earth by the Master Craftsman.
You have to believe you can make things happen. It’s an attitude that develops over time. It helps if you had supportive and positive parents, but most of us had run-of-mill parents who inadvertently passed on to us the same limiting beliefs and negative conditioning they grew up with. However the past is the past. There is no payoff for blaming them for your current level of self-confidence. It’s now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and beliefs. You must believe that – through the power of God – you can achieve anything you set your mind to because you can. The latest research shows that enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with proper training, coaching and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything. If you believe it is impossible, you will not do what is necessary and you will not produce results. It is not about what life hands you but how you respond to it, mentally and physically, that matters most.
If you want to be successful you will have to give up the word can’t and all of its cousins such as “I wish I were able to”. The words “I can’t” disempower you. They actually make you weaker when you say them. Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal you give it. The words you say and think affect your body. We see that in toddlers. When you were a toddler, there was no stopping you. You thought you could climb anything. But little by little your sense of invincibility is conditioned out of you by the emotional and physical abuse that you receive from your family, friends, and teachers, until you no longer believe you can. The winners are those who believe in themselves when no-one else does. You can’t listen to others. You need to base your decisions about what you want to do on your goals and desires. Quit worrying about other people and follow your heart.
When you are 18 you worry about what everybody else is thinking about you.
When you are 40 you don’t give a darn what anybody thinks.
When you are 60, you realize nobody’s been thinking about you.
Most of the time, nobody’s thinking about you. They are too busy worrying about their own lives, and if they are thinking about you, they are wondering what you are thinking about them. People think about themselves and not you. All that time you are wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home could be better spent on thinking about and doing things that will achieve your goals.